As it stands in the year 2020, prostitution is still illegal across a majority of the United States. If prostitution legalization follows a similar trajectory as marijuana legalization, it wouldn’t be surprising to see an increasing number of states pondering the possibility of making the practice legal. If that turns out to be the case in the coming years, how would that look? How would legalized prostitution affect the day to day of the average adult and how may it alter a man or woman’s decision regarding relationships and family structure?
Access to sex
One glaring change would be the average adult’s access to no strings attached, transactional sex. Theoretically, any man or woman who wants to get their rocks off would have the opportunity to do so at the drop of a hat, without the fear of being arrested for soliciting prostitution. Whether that is a good thing or a bad thing depends on who you ask.
For instance, the married man who is tired of begging his wife for sex, may take a quick detour to the local brothel after work, drop a couple hundred dollars or so, and have his sexual urges met. Now, if you ask the husband, I’m sure he would agree that this new found option is definitely a benefit. He get his needs met, he doesn’t have to go through the hassle of coaxing his wife into sex and she can be at peace knowing that he won’t be trying to pressure her into sex as soon he hits the front door. But is this a healthy alternative for a marriage…introducing a third party into the relationship to address a need that many people feel should be taken care of by the spouse. Would this be a viable long-term solution to that problem, or is this simply a way to delay the inevitable? Because at the end of the day, the issue still persists. You have a wife that does not want to satisfy the sexual urge of her husband, for whatever reason. Seeing a prostitute in order to get those needs met doesn’t erase that fact.
Another example may be a young man who is a virgin who hasn’t had much luck with the opposite sex thus far in his life. If he feel like his best option is to hire a prostitute to get his first sexual experience with a woman, would that necessarily be the ideal way for him to be introduced into sex? Would that approach skew that young man’s idea of the relationship dynamics between a man and a woman, versus a man who has had sexual success with women (without having to pay them) in a more organic way? Would that young man tend to look at women in general in a way that devalues them, since the only success he’s had with them was when he forked over money in order to get them to do what he wants? What is the long-term affect of that kind of experience? Is there any long-term effect at all?
Long Term Relationships and Marriages
When discussing the possibility of legalizing prostitution, one of the the most obvious changes, in my opinion, would be the rate at which people enter into long-term monogamous relationships and marriages. With the advent of social media and dating sites, we already see its’ affects on the dating scene and how it even affects people who have walked down the aisle. Social media has created much more anxiety within the average relationship than in years past. You now have to worry about your girlfriend or boyfriend’s online “friends and associates” that are in constant communication with your partner. Sometimes at an even higher rate than you yourself can be. With legalized prostitution, this would be on steroids where it can easily go from being an online problem to a full fledged in person, flesh on flesh issue.
Even the rate at which people look to enter into long term relationships would more than likely drop like a rock. Just think about it. If you are a young man with income and you have access to unlimited sex, without having to invest time and effort into a woman, that may or may not come through at the end of the night, which option are you more likely to take? It goes without saying. That in turn would remove the need for a long-term relationship in many instances. Especially if you have other priorities such as work, school, starting a business or other activities that you would much rather concentrate on rather than trying to juggle a relationship and keep a woman happy and content. So even if a man chooses to have a long-term monogamous relationship, it would probably be something that he chooses to delay if prostitutes are made to be a more safe, legal and reliable option than they are now. This could in fact increase productivity in the long-term, because as we all know relationships take time and effort, which could easily be spent being a more productive human-being. That wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing, but that would undoubtedly change the way our society is structured with regards to stable relationships and stable families.
Those are just a few issues that can come from legalizing prostitution. For better or for worse.
What do you think?